With more and more men choosing to date and/or marry Chinese women it is perhaps necessary to know which ones may be suitable for you, or totally unsuitable for you, before you end up in a position that may be difficult to extricate yourself from. But first, let me tell you a true story about a Chinese woman called May to illustrate my point.
May was twenty-nine years old and looking to marry a westerner. This was her ambition for many reasons, one very important one was financial security. The other was: she believed she would have more freedom in a relationship with a westerner, as opposed to a Chinese male. The problem with May was that May didn’t like sex, didn’t want sex and didn’t see it as part of her future marriage. This was a position May refused to change or deal with. Somehow, May had the idea that just marrying her potential western male husband was enough to ensure a happy marriage. This view, and others like it, is not uncommon in Chinese females. In my years in China I have learnt what to look out for, and will list the general types below:
1. A woman seeking a new life. Many of these types of women have been married and divorced before and are over the age of thirty. Finding that their traditional type of marriage didn’t work as expected, they are now veering to another extreme, which is marriage to a male totally outside of their own culture. By and large, these Chinese women make excellent wives as they have already learnt that a relationship takes effort and attention, which may well have been lacking on the part of their first husband within their marriage.
2. A woman in her late twenties, unmarried previously. Dependant …Read more